Friendsgiving At Our Farm

Tessa, Kate and Blake in Windy Hill’s dining room.

Michael and I have three great kids who are very close in age. When Kate was only two Blake was born and when she was only three, Tessa was born. I remember it like it was yesterday, sort of. The mom fog dissipated somewhere around middle school, I think.

The Social Network

As they grew we grew with them and one thing Michael and I agreed upon pretty early was the emphasis we wanted to place on fine-tuning their social skills. While so many of our friends were focusing their efforts on only academics, we felt that fantastic social skills might be even more beneficial to them as they grew. The magic sauce.

With that in mind, we heavily encouraged all three of them to go to school dances, participate in loads of extracurricular activities, volunteer, try out for many sports, and join interesting organizations. In addition, we rigorously encouraged them to invite their friends over to our farm. After all, that’s why we bought it in the first place. For them.

Windy Hill Farmhouse circa 1840.

Our Farm

Windy Hill is our home in Bucks County, PA. We purchased this nineteenth-century farm in 2007, just as our oldest, Kate, was entering 2nd grade. We love this place with all our hearts, and we use just about every square inch of it for grand backyard picnics, balcony firework viewing parties, holiday gatherings, campfire soirees, volleyball tournaments, movie nights, and even a college reunion a few years back.

A Pennsylvania Winter Snow at Windy Hill Farm.

College reunion backyard event. #UniversityofDelaware #VC88

So why not Host a Friendsgiving?

This old, sturdy house is truly a HOME, and here is one way we share it with others.

Back when the kids were in high school we started hosting a Windy Hill Friendsgiving. Every year since, just a day or two before Thanksgiving, we open our doors, our hearts, and every single room in our home to all 3 layers of our children’s social networks.

Kate and some old friends.

text group Planning

The planning begins about a month out and the great part is that I don’t really need to do much at all as our kids fully coordinate the day. They plan the entire menu primarily through group text chains, help with table and chair set up, and by adorning with appropriate decor. Banners are hung by the threshold with care in hopes that Friendsgiving soon will be there.

Tessa and girlfriends gather under the banner.

The homecooked Meal

Via text, each friend joining us is assigned one dish to share. It’s just an old-fashioned Potluck. Some kids choose their specialty, as is the case with Mckenna who always bakes her sought-after peanut butter cup cookies. As expected some kids like to sign up for “drinks” or “dinner rolls”, something they can grab on the way over, while others make their grandma’s homemade stuffing. It’s remarkable that all the bases are always covered, no one needs to stress, and there is plenty for everyone. So simple for me.

Elementary school friends Danny and Kyle eyeing up the meats.

Buffet Style is best

When everyone arrives the traveling casseroles are lined up all over the kitchen so that everyone can dig in buffet style. This is understandably the easiest way to host, as hungry boys line up quickly and it’s best if the food is all in one place.

Blake’s friends line up at the kitchen island.

I try to capture the happy moments as friends reunite.

Small House, Many Guests

Some years we hosted 40+ guests, from all 3 different groups of friends. Since the kids are so close in age it’s nice because everyone knows everyone all throughout the house. We try to have tables everywhere so there is plenty of seating. This is a little outdoor cafe table that I cover and set in the corner of the family room for more intimate dining. Maybe it reminds them of Paris.

Jenna, McKenna and Tristan enjoy a quiet corner.

It depends on the year, but sometimes all the guys gather to feast separately from the gals, but other times, everybody mixes up the fun. Guy-only tables can get pretty messy but I stay focused on the fun and photos, and the kids always help with clean up - they are just such a great group.

The guy table.

Gals choose the other side of the dining room.

Will I have enough space?

We only have 4 small rooms plus a mudroom on the lower level of the farmhouse, so squeezing all these kids in at once is no easy task. I’ve been known to cast our sofas onto the deck in order to set up several 8ft long tables with our flea market stash of odd wooden chairs so there is plenty of space. The kids just love it and it’s totally worth it. Memories mean a lot.

Move furniture, add tables, make memories.

Free-but-festive Centerpieces

And as the day approaches everyone helps gather pinecones and greens for the “free-but-festive” centerpieces. Unique every year. Plus each fall I bulk up on plenty of votives so there’s always a cozy glow throughout. Votives are low on the table, the candles don’t drip wax, and they are just plain easy.

Hugs and kisses everywhere.

Nothing too precious attitude

I love this tradition and I am so glad nothing was ever too precious here to prevent us from turning Windy Hill into a Friendsgiving HUB. Sharing our home in all the ways we have and taking the time to know so many of our children’s friends has helped us too.

Over the years our farm has also been the gathering spot for our friends many of whom are, not surprisingly, the parents of the kids in these photos. I think if you have a farm with this much history (the topic for another blog), it’s a good idea to continuously SHARE it, and share it well. Friendsgiving 2022 is tomorrow, so now I’ve got to go! Much love and Happy Thanksgiving all!

Tess and her clan of pals.

Kate’s friends, home from college, squeeze into the corner cafe.

Thanks for reading, I’d love to hear from you in the comments below. -Kim
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Learn: The earliest use of the term Friendsgiving dates back to a 2007 tweet, but some people credit the hit show Friends for inspiring the concept of spending the holiday with friends.
Create: Cultivate the “spirit” by inviting your kid’s friends to your home often.
Inspire: Host a Friendsgiving of your own soon.

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How to choose flowers that have sentimental meaning

The Meaning of Flowers

Long before I opened Studio Sprig in 2016, I owned a freelance design business called Kim Bensing Design where I told sentimental romance stories through book-like wedding invitations. Because of my background in conceptual advertising, the captivating stories about my engaged couples were what I was after. I interviewed them extensively before I even began the design work. I loved this aspect of my job. I really enjoyed getting to know their backstory, and what message they wanted to relay to their guests with their invitations.

So in 2012, my first daughter Kate was graduating 6th grade and I wanted to buy her some flowers. But I didn’t want them to be just any pre-made, handheld bouquet wrapped in plastic. I wanted them to be especially meaningful to reflect how ultra special she was to me. So I went to a florist near me and asked them to tie up a few specific blooms & sprigs for my daughter to hold at her ceremony. This is four years before I knew anything about the floral industry, local growers, seasonal flowers, or pesticides. I did, however, know about plastic wrap, and I knew I did not want that! When I arrived, I was strictly interested in the meaning of the flowers and I asked for their help. And because I needed a card to explain the flowers, I also designed and attached a simple little one that illustrated the meaning of each flower in the bouquet and why I chose it. I hoped that she’d keep this forever but I am not sure she could actually find that card today, as she’s now 22 and a very busy graduate student. But through that small, ribbon-tied bouquet and a little tiny card, my undying love was conveyed that day, and it was the catalyst that propelled me to launch the Bucks County, boutique floral art studio; Studio Sprig, four years later.

Choosing Sentimental Flowers for Arrangements and Bouquets

Here is a short list of some of the flowers I chose for Kate’s bouquet above, to the best of my limited 2011 knowledge, and again because I can’t find the card!!! I hope you get the idea.

The focal flower is Stock & it is a symbol of a happy life, lasting beauty, and contented existence. It also smells AMAZING!!
The purple Aster symbolizes love, wisdom & faith.
The scattered Baby’s breath symbolizes everlasting love.
I am sure there were a few more sprigs tucked in, but I can’t see them in this photo, so sorry.

This topic of “the meaning behind something” has always fascinated me so here is a little flower history for you.

Floriography: The Language of Flowers

Floriography, the language of flowers, has been practiced in traditional cultures throughout Europe, Asia, and Africa for thousands of years. Strong interest in floriography soared in Victorian England and in the United States during the 19th century. Gifts of blooms, plants, and specific floral arrangements were used to send a coded message to the recipient, allowing the sender to express feelings which - and I love this part - could not be spoken aloud in Victorian society. A popular book entitled Le Langage des fleurs by Charlotte de la Tour was published in France in 1819. Here, Charlotte offered 300 meanings for particular flowers to provide assistance in making bouquets. Victorians often exchanged small "talking bouquets", called nosegays or tussie-mussies, which could be worn or carried as a fashion accessory.* I always love this because I carried a tussie-mussie filled with roses, hydrangea, and herbs for my wedding in 1998, having absolutely no real understanding of why I chose one except that I loved Jane Austen.

If you are unfamiliar with the illustrations of Kate Greenaway, take a look at her gorgeous 19th-century children’s books including the one linked below.

I hope you have enjoyed learning the meaning behind the meaning of flowers. Below please see the short list of some popular blooms and their symbolisms as well as a few current and not-so-current resources I discovered. You can click on the image and it will take you to where you can buy it. Have fun the next time you create a bouquet from your own garden or pop into your local flower shop or farmer’s market, and be sure to request specifics based on what they will mean to your recipient. Remember to always attach a small card to explain!

Helpful Links to learn more about meaningful flowers

I have included a link for the french edition of Le Langage des fleurs if you would like to add it to your collection. There are also more current options which I will include below. Most notably the gorgeous books authored by Shane Connolly. Enjoy.

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Floriography Sources

Shane Connolly of the UK is a renowned designer who designs for England’s royalty. Shane exemplifies the idea of discovering how florals can relate to the concept of your event. His beautiful website is worth browsing. Here are 6 of his published books that would be worth reading.

The Secret Language of Flowers: Rediscovering Traditional Meanings

Language of Flowers

Wedding Flowers

A Year in Flowers

Table Flowers: Over 50 Arrangements for Simple, Special and Spectacular Occasions

Discovering the Meaning of Flowers

Please comment to share some other interesting floral symbolisms or stories you’ve enjoyed or created. Include images!

A short list of popular flowers, herbs and their symbolisms:

~ Zinnia / friendship, & daily remembrance
~ Rose / love & passion
~ Peony / love, honor & goodwill
~ Dahlia / commitment & kindness
~ Tulip / passion & deep love
~ Carnation / love
~ Calla Lily / life & fertility
~ Gerber Daisy / cheerfulness & celebration
~ Orchid / thoughtfulness & charm
~ Gardenia / trust, hope & peace
~ Sunflowers / loyalty & admiration
~ Hydrangea / gratitude, grace & beauty
~ Rosemary / remembrance
~ Sage / wisdom & immortality
~ Thyme / courage & activity

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Learn: Read a book about the meaning of flowers
Create: Design a handheld tussie-mussie and assemble with a note
Inspire: Share your creation with a friend

I hope you enjoyed this Inspiration. Please leave comments below. I’d love to hear about your cool floral combinations. I’m always here to help you with your creative journey. Please sign up to receive blog post notifications and follow Studio Sprig on Instagram, Facebook, and Pinterest. I look forward to connecting. If you’re a blogger, what’s your favorite SEO Tool? I’ve had much keyword success with RankIQ. Learn more here. - Kim

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*source: Wikpedia
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